June 2010 - Archived Old Area - Do Not Post Here
June 2010 - Archived Old Area - Do Not Post Here
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June 18th, 2010 at 11:05 pm
Maybe towards the end of July someone can poke me to make a new thread!
Dr H
June 19th, 2010 at 12:25 pm
Gee, think I mentioned it Doc. You okay? To much work…
MK-Hope graduation went well. and the fun party afterwards. Now to college and all the good work you’ve done as a mom will make her stonge and stand like a proud woman. Good going.
June 20th, 2010 at 10:40 am
Today we honor fathers-some are here with us and others leave us memories I hope all the Dads on this site have a great day-you are very important
MK
June 20th, 2010 at 1:25 pm
looking for a new thread Dr. H? I was looking for thoughts and expressions and experiences during early recovery?? My emotions are all over the place and my mind races, what are people experiencing???
June 20th, 2010 at 2:42 pm
Amen to that. I remember dad’s strong hands, watch my husband so strong and loving…what would we have been like those of us lucky to have our dads..thanks MK for the rememberance.
June 20th, 2010 at 5:40 pm
Welcome ShellyDawn!
I liked the journal things you wrote. The whole part where the alcoholic/addict is desperately trying to create enough turmoil and pain so they can justify using…. It is SO “two people” “red/blue”.
I ask people who relapse to relate the conversation that goes/went on in their head where the “addict” sells them that drinking/drugging is a sensible path to take.
Some folks “don’t know” how they got tricked into choosing the wrong reality, and it seems like addicts need to be able to remember the flawed logic that was used against them.
It’s like when new folks come and ask “what am I going to do for fun?” and I point out they weren’t HAVING FUN, that’s why they want to get sober….
It’s an odd look they get on their face as they mull it over and go”yeahhh… that’s right, it WASN’T fun…”
Dr H
June 21st, 2010 at 1:03 am
Hi ShellyDawn. Welcome to the group here. Everyone is welcome. Your emotions are all over the place during early recovery? How are you doing now? Can you tell us more about yourself? Again, welcome. Haven’t you written before? Had a ”memory” when walking into a pharmacy today. I don’t know why they hit at times. And it’s usually when things are going good. Maybe that’s why they hit then. the addict in us don’t want us to be happy. Again, look forward to hearing from you more soon…
Doc, how right you are. My drug use started to ”make me happy”’, bc I wasn’t happy. Then the ball rolled so fast and hard. Drugs are only supposed to make us well….when we r sick…sad we don’t see that before we start…
June 22nd, 2010 at 4:06 pm
My son is in need of help for Oxcotin addiction. He went to treatment and they detoxed him with Methadon. He left treatment center and now is still taking the methadon. He seems worse than when he was taking the Oxcotin. What should I suggest to him? How many of you out there are using suboxen? Does it work better than Methadon? Please give me any suggestions to help my son get off this roller coaster he has gotten himself into.
June 23rd, 2010 at 2:34 pm
hi everyone,
heard from our buddy steve?
i certainly hope he’s amongst the sober living crowd.
he has helped many of us, and i hope he has reached out as well.
i know he mentioned that he slipped on ‘an innocent benzo’
that hit home for me.
i had been taking a little chunk of valium at night to sleep.
well, that lasted for about 2 years.
i started vistaril, it worked, but i didn’t ‘like’ it.
guess what?
last fall it became became .25 xanax at night
then .5
then 1
then .5 x 3 day
then….
you get the picture
up to about 3 x 2mg day
(i’m calling myself out here)
up until last december - then back down to .25 only at night.
well, i see how that ‘innocent benzo’ can quickly slip you up.
when steve made that post i immediately quit those fuckers.
thanks steve, i’m much better for it.
my sleep patterns are totally normal again - with nothing.
my anxiety is gone
the only anxiety i had, now that i can see,
was that of the addict wanting more.
‘if i just take this little amount i’ll be ok’
well, fuck you
i don’t need it - never did
ok, i’m ramblin’
i hope everyone’s well - have a lovely day
ps: doc, nice commercial
June 23rd, 2010 at 4:56 pm
no, you aren’t rambling bup…
i’ll rat myself also.
i take 1-2 xanax a day.
i’ve had severe anxiety for years.
throw up going to a family dinner at the last toilet out of the house.
i’ve always been shy, and looking back on it, i think i’ve always had anxiety
(yeah, everyone’s probably saying she’s fooling herself)
summer vacations i would stay in the house, afraid to leave and do things with my friends.
ones who knew me understood and got me out one way or another.
well, i’ve been on anti depressents, everything that would stop the anxiety.
finally they put me on xanax, and it’s something i don’t abuse.
many days i’m okay just on one, especially if i’m with a loved one who understands, or if i’m staying home by myself. before i started it, i wouldn’t answer the door, would hide if i saw someone drive in the driveway, i’d go to the store with my husband, but wouldn’t get out of the car, hoping i’d see no one i knew. so many stories that it would bore you. point is, i know these meds are addicting, but there are some out there that would never leave home. talk to someone? how do you get there, and yes, i tried that also.
meditation, prayer, sent for the book on anxiety that advertises at 2 a.m.
so, that’s my story. fact or fiction. for me its fact
bup- if you didn’t need it, i’m so proud of you for x-ing it out of your life. you are a good person.
June 24th, 2010 at 11:11 am
Scared Mom! Says:
June 22nd, 2010 at 4:06 pm
My son is in need of help for Oxcotin addiction. He went to treatment and they detoxed him with Methadon. He left treatment center and now is still taking the methadon. He seems worse than when he was taking the Oxcotin. What should I suggest to him? How many of you out there are using suboxen? Does it work better than Methadon? Please give me any suggestions to help my son get off this roller coaster he has gotten himself into.
June 24th, 2010 at 12:00 pm
Mom, welcome. Where do you live? If in the area of DrH, I suggest you get him there. As far as I’m concerened, Dr.H is the best, he knows the bullshit from patients, yet he’s gentle, kind and concerned. He keeps in contact. Is your son overusing the methadone? He should NOT be high if taking the right doasage. And subox is better than methadone for recovering addicts. You really have a fighting chance taking subox and attending meetings. Good luck…and keep in touch…
June 24th, 2010 at 5:17 pm
mom,
most addicts will continue to abuse - just a well known fact.
methadone is easily abused.
if he doesn’t have a grasp of recovery yet,
and he has a desire to use,
methadone is not a good choice for your son.
my opinion would be to try suboxone.
he can easily get high on methadone.
just add some xanax and he’s off and runing.
if he appears to be high like he was with oxys
then he’s back in the cycle of abuse.
don’t let yourself be fooled.
if you’re not near slo and dr h, find another dr to rx sub.
but most important
** get him into a program of recovery**
anything
anything that works for him
12 steps
private counsel
handcuffs…
and anything other than methadone
imho
June 24th, 2010 at 7:06 pm
what is the f…ing point of recovery? I have worked my butt off I don’t take any god damned xanax I just work it out- after all this NOBODY will hire me because I had a drug problem- society says clean up your act but don’t come back -you can clean our houses and serve us food- but don’t make eye contact- I mean seriously what is the point of being happy if you can’t support yourselves? Now I am very in touch with my emotions and aware of my behavior and accountable and honest- for what so I can live with my parents forever? I kid you not this is a joke- I have spent the last year getting my license back- but I can’t find a job and when I do the HR people won’t approve me- so right now I do understand why people say the hell with it- call me bitter
MK
June 24th, 2010 at 9:08 pm
M.K. have you thought about home health nursing?
Strat
June 24th, 2010 at 9:27 pm
thanks stratman-can’t do it according to the board-no supervision-being on probation with the BRN is the problem-in diversion your past is a secret not those on probation its an open book-everyone is afraid of being sued so its easier to say no and hire travelers.
June 24th, 2010 at 9:31 pm
Scared Mom….
I’m totally behind what Bupester says.
Methadone has three MAJOR problems;
1) Any addict will tell you, methadone gets you “high”
2) The more methadone you take, the more effect it has, so it’s easy to “abuse”, just take more. If you ask an addict if they need more drugs the answer is …YES, so addicts tend to get on more methadone than they “need”
3) Methadone is dangerous. It’s so long lasting that it “builds up”; so you can’t give an addict “tomorrows dose” today, they’ll TAKE it today. That’s why you need to go to the methadone clinic every day for months and months.
Meanwhile… Suboxone…
1) Doesn’t make addicts “high” (there is some low level debate on this, but I’ve never seen an addict on Suboxone over sedated or lethargic and slurring words and stumbling and bouncing off walls or falling asleep in their soup)
2) Suboxone has a “ceiling effect”, after taking 2 or 3 a day, they have no further effect. One patient took 8 a day and got no high or euphoria.
3) Suboxone prevents other opiates (like OxyContin) from working and getting the addict “high”. It’s not an actual “blocker” but it massively interferes with the effect of other opiates.
As Bupester says, it really depends on what the addict is looking for, and if they are still chasing a “high” feeling they won’t like Suboxone. If they’re trying to be a fish who’s not swimming, a bird who’s not flying, and an addict who isn’t abusing drugs, Suboxone is a wonder drug.
Dr H
June 24th, 2010 at 9:33 pm
Hey Bupester, the commercial isn’t cheesy or lame? I have a lot of mixed feelings promoting myself SLOARC, but then again I adore having new addicts show up looking for a way out. My office manager pushed for it so I said okay.
Dr H
June 24th, 2010 at 9:35 pm
BTW Steve with ten days, working on day 11 today, living at a sober living place and looking and sounding like the guy we know and love.
Dr H
June 25th, 2010 at 9:48 am
June 25th, 2010 at 10:08 am
And I realize how much hard work goes into becoming an RN. I’ve watched a sister and a daughter in law. But remember , the people cleaning your house ( or as I do cuz I’m just a houewife) and serve you food aren’t any less than anyone else. Just making money to take care of their families. In DrH’s ads you hear the word compassion. Just a thought.
June 25th, 2010 at 10:44 am
So M.K. let me understand , there is no way to “hide” some of your history ?
Strat.
June 25th, 2010 at 11:41 am
And by the way M.K. I’m sure you got sober so you could get the real M.K. back, and getting a job was a secondary concern. So to gain ones soul and loss the world is much better than the other way around.
Strat.
June 25th, 2010 at 11:42 am
thats lose not loss
June 25th, 2010 at 8:17 pm
June 25th, 2010 at 8:28 pm
June 26th, 2010 at 8:55 am
June 26th, 2010 at 9:28 am
June 26th, 2010 at 9:52 am
June 26th, 2010 at 10:19 am
A wise friend of Steves once said that before she shared comments about others she asked herself three questions.
1) Is it true?
2) Is it necessary?
3) Is it kind?
There is no reason to bicker and trash the mood of the blog, I speak with many patients who are reading the blog daily despite not posting themselves.
Scared Moms are trying to get info.
Shelly Dawns are looking deep into themselves for new insights so they can stay sober.
Vanilla Sky is reaching out trying to find the strength to cross the line.
L is avoiding meetings because they don’t seem to be aiding some of the other bloggers.
Don’t know where RP is standing these days.
LLRL is probably watching.
Dr H
June 26th, 2010 at 12:14 pm
I am at a point now I have 4 years clean time- I feel comfortable with myself, but I am coming to terms with the fact that the wreckage of my past affects my future - I have tried to remain positive but sometimes the struggle get’s me down- now all you young people listen- if you learn early on and embrace recovery you can go out there and have a life. You can have a great career, support yourself, buy a house, have a family. Suboxone is a godsend for those who suffer from opiate dependence try it- Dr H is amazing he truly cares and doesn’t judge - you can tell him anything. Get help now - i wish you well.
MK
June 26th, 2010 at 9:47 pm
Wow, not sure what that was all about, but if I may add my 2 cents ? Because of Dr H I was given my first tool of recovery-the gift of Suboxone. Because of that I was then able to quit drugs and alcohol, attend 12 step meetings, gain a sponsor, work the steps in depth, be of service, and still remain clean and sober for almost 1 year now. I have, for sure, had many times where I wanted to use. I broke my freaking toe, split up with my lover, severed my finger in the car door, have bills gone to collection, gained 40 lbs, and had several health issues.
Nobody said life was going to be perfect now that I’m clean, and it sure hasnt been, but you know what? I have had so many days of pure happiness. As my sponsor says The worst day of sobriety is better than the best day of addiction.
There are many tools we can use, and blogging is one of them.
This blog is helping me this minute. I turned to you guys instead of smirnoff.
Tomorrow will be meditation meeting and sunday meeting. And I will make another day without using. I’m in such pain right now, but ya know what? It’s real, it’s awful, I’m sick of crying—-but this too will pass.!!!!
And tomorrow there will be no hangover.
June 28th, 2010 at 1:26 pm
Doc. the whole acronym is
T=Is it True
H=Is it Helpfull
I= Is it Intelligent/Inspiring
N= Is it Necessary
K= Is it Kind
June 28th, 2010 at 7:46 pm
Thanks Stratperson.
And a HUGE thanks to slodancing! Good to see you here again! I’m glad the blog helps.
It’s a good place to feel relaxed and comfortable and anonymous and share.
Dr H
June 28th, 2010 at 8:52 pm
Ive believe it would be great if drs were supposed to put a certain amount of hours each year into when to prescribe or not too younger people addicting drugs. My daughter started getting hers in H s. And the dr keeps writing. Or see them more often. An adddict is a hard way to live just an idea.
June 29th, 2010 at 7:44 am
Geez, Doc. “Stratperson” are we getting that P.C. or is that for reasons of anonymity?
And what commercial are we taking about here? Has your fame catapulted you out of the New Times onto television?
Strat
June 30th, 2010 at 10:49 am
Thanks Dr H for the time you took with me last week. It really does come down to believing in a “master plan”. I have to just relax and have faith. My life is really nice,my kids are happy and healthy,I have a great family I just can’t seem to support myself- yet- you made a good point about not forcing anything-I keep that with “Chowchilla”.and count my blessings. You are awesome- your faithful patient
MK
June 30th, 2010 at 11:02 am
oh ya and my favorite-”it isn’t up to me to straighten out anyone”
June 30th, 2010 at 11:57 am
Strat= You should write comedy. Could do it from home…another Chevy Chase on the coast. LOl
Was nice to meet LaShae (hope i spelled that correctly) yesterday. Dr.H, you are the only dr i know who doen’t slide in and then out within 3 minutes. Appreciated the comments and suggestions…and your confidence in me. And the time you take to explain things. Thanks again. I’ve already emailed you so i wouldn’t blab to long on the blog. LOL Being at the coast yesterday and leaving this morning, gave me claritiy, as it always does. Don’t feel so sorry for myself. I visited our friend afterwards at French hospital, and amazing how fast they have him healing.
I wanted recovery so bad, just couldn’t deal with the pain. I’m so happy I got on line for hours and found Dr.H in SLO. Not to far away. I’m a recovering addict…and today a happy recovering addict.
Anyone know how Rocking and Missy are doing? I hear from Missy occasionally, and she sounds happy. Everyone have a good day, and MK, be glad you are at the coast. Hit 111 on Monday, and 100 I hear yesterday. Today is muggy and the air is coming on, never a good sign. Do you ever miss the valley?
June 30th, 2010 at 5:10 pm
Thank you for welcoming me to this blog. I will share a bit so we can get to know each other. I am a recovering alcoholic, black out drinker, started drinking at the age of 13, spiraling down quick in my 20’s and finally obtained 2 years of continuous sobriety at 31 without a program, but the big book did help me figure out i was not going crazy and that i was an alocholic and the AA seed was planted in my mind. At the age of 34, I met a great guy and had the same moment as a lot of you, “maybe i am not an alcoholic”. I spent the next 3 years trying to quit my way. The result, every relapse got worse never better. The last 30 days have been harder than anything i have experienced in my life but worth it. I took my 30 day chip 2 days ago, thanks to people like you all!
July 1st, 2010 at 8:57 am
Shelly Dawn: congratulations! keep up the good work-and welcome
MK
July 1st, 2010 at 9:12 am
Shelly Dawn, Congratulations. I think staying sober will be the proudest things we have done for ourselves. Always thinking of others, it’s time to put ourselves first, (which is often hard, isn’t it??), and know we need to do this to live. So proud of you, and truly glad you shared your story. Have a happy 4th of July, sane and sober!!!!
July 1st, 2010 at 11:07 am
Thanks Mk and Princess Stinkerbelle for your reply’s. Yes, it is hard to put ourselves first… I have to visualize drawing a circle around myself and telling myself if it is not in this circle it is not important right now. My focus is me and my recovery. Something that was passed on to me about staying in the present- Yesterday is a cancelled check, tomorrow is a promisary note, today is cash on hand, use it well.
July 1st, 2010 at 6:45 pm
Hey Ya’ll it’s the Ratdog here, back on the air again to bore you all to death ha ha, Stinkerbelle and stratman it’s good to see ya still here along with MK. Alex and Rockin Lady Hi not High. Hey with a little help from another concerned professional, I ran down Steve. I hit his skinny ass with a big hug and a bigger WELCOME back to him. I promised him and his compa Big B to lunch next time I slide through the fog an ride into slocity, one of Sodom and Gammora’s Sister towns, ha ha ha, only it’s on the QT. Steve said as long as it’s not Jimmie Dees. I was just shattered, My God, a man of my position and means, with an ego to match, would even think about taling a couple of friends to a place my dog’s won’t eat ha ha. Man this is another tender mercy and promise coming due. I really was concerned about Brother Steve and feel so good that he’s out of the storm and put up in a safe harbor. I looked everywhere for him. To anyone new, this praying stuff really works as long as it comes from mi corozon amigos. well time for my burger king ha ha, no some broiled talapia.
This living free of drugs and booze is all that it’s cranked out to be. Bye for now The Ratdog
July 1st, 2010 at 9:13 pm
Well well well… will wonders ever cease!
Ratdog LIVES!
Way to go trackin’ down Steve and getting in his face.
**FLASH THOUGHT**
(maybe I should have gathered all the SLOARC fans of Steve’s to show for an intervention)
It’s interesting how different weeks have different messages, and I bet it has more to do with me than the issues patients bring in…
It seems like my head acts like a central clearinghouse for the bright remarks other patients make, and the colossal (and rookie) mistakes other patients make, and I just listen to patients and share what pops into my head that seems relevant.
I also tell people exactly what they look like from the point of an outside observer.
BTW MK…. the woman who did the two years at Chowchilla prison moved away for several years, but came back not so long ago. She showed up not too long after you were in the other day, and I shared with her that she had helped another recovering person and didn’t even know it.
I forget, if I told the group…
Once, when a patient was talking about how they were dancing on the edge of sobriety, I mentioned they were dancing with “Chowchilla Prison” and their face dropped and they had a sort of “AHA!” moment.
ShellyDawn and MK, seems like the topics of the week had to do with “faith”, no?
Hey RP!!!!! Come on dude… give us a chance to take a few shots at ya….
Dr H
July 2nd, 2010 at 7:35 am
Holy Moses,
It’s RatDog the voice of normalcy for the blog, nice to have you back.
And welcome ShellyDawn It’s always nice to have a new face around here so to speak.
I’ve recently discovered that there are some people on the internet with a lot of spare time on their hands, I ran across several websites dedicated to proving to them selves and others that A/A is a sham/cult set up by Bill W. to fleece the unsuspecting susceptible alcoholics out of cash and create mindless drones out of them. It just goes to show you that the internet supports free speech to the hilt, these guys are scary to the extreme, that someone would donate so much time and effort to denigrate an organization dedicated to helping those with addictions is mind boggling, oh well and so it goes.
Strat
July 2nd, 2010 at 1:30 pm
Strat- I bet they are all loaded when they are posting!
Dr. H: Keeping the faith- had a couple nibbles this week-interviewing next week-would it wierd to put you down as a reference? probably
July 2nd, 2010 at 3:49 pm
hey everyone of ya’ll in cyber-sobriety dimentia ha ha, hope you all have a safe an insane, no really a sane fourth of July. Heck Good Doctor, I could see it now, an intervention on our friend ha ha ha. I’ll get back later, I am at the Dog Park here in Cambria and I am freezing my ass off.
Talk to ya later fellow flunkies of Bill W ha ha, that was great stratman, I’ll take getting involved with a diabolical sect anyday over what I was. Anyday. The Ratdog
July 2nd, 2010 at 4:53 pm
Welcome home ratdog. Long time. Good to know someone who ” saw” steve. Glad he’s doing better, and u sound great
mk. Hope thosevjob interviews r good ones for you.
ShellyDawn. Keep the good work. Being sober is great As u r finding out. So proud of u.
Everyone have safe sober holiday. Hugs to all
July 2nd, 2010 at 9:11 pm
Glad to hear that steve is back, I am back aswell. 1st day back on the wagon. thank you for seeing me today doc., I went out 12 days ago and it took a little public intervention to get me back here (arrest). Despite not feelin so hot I made it through today and took my subs. 12 days ago I had a bright Idea to stop taking my meds so I could use. that didn’t work out very well. I am going to hit up meetings tomorrow. Glad to be back
July 3rd, 2010 at 12:17 am
Most wonderful is that YOU’RE back miscreant! It’s interesting to contemplate that perhaps your roller coaster style is MORE frightening to me than it is to you?
Thank you for all the kudos troops, I try and provide what people need, and sometimes it takes a lot of time and sometimes less.
So…. L …. tell us about how you don’t want to become an AA “junkie”.
Still looking for you RP…
Lordy lordy, wasn’t there a show “Romper Room” where the teacher would say stuff like that??
Dr H
July 3rd, 2010 at 12:18 am
Behind every skirt is a slip……
Dr H
July 3rd, 2010 at 1:04 am
Miscreants. Congratulation being back on wagon. Glad u r back.
Still glad to hear Steve is also doing well.
DrH. Romper room. Teacher would look through the “looking glass” and usually your mom would send in your name. At end of show shed hold her mirror and say, and I see Dane, there’s MK, and look at Rat dog with his dogs”. Watched eveyday while recovering from rhuematic fever n
MK. Don’t know if this interests u. How about becoming a paramedic? Don’t know how much training or if you’d even roll that way. Only trying to think of ideas to get a good nurse who has paid her dues get back to helping people.
DrH. R u getting many younger people in seeking treatment? I hope so.
Safe, sane and sober xoxo
July 3rd, 2010 at 7:11 pm
Hey Guys, second day of sobriety (thank goodnes for subs) I liked your comment Doc about behind every skirt there is a slip. as we spoke earlier I was very apprehensive. I had been seeing a psychiatrist and a counsolor and not told you about it. I rationionalized that you were taking care of my addiction and that I needed o se someone else for my psychiatric well being (deppression and anxiety). I was prescribed seroqual and xanax and never told u about it, as u said this may of been he beginining to my relapse recently but i am still not convinced (maybe thats my addict?) but you have never ben wrong yet doc. It was hard to not tell you about my psychiatrist I have been seeing and as we sat in your office I had many chances to tell you, but I didn’t. Addiction has made me do things that I would have never done in my past. I just want to be happy free and joyous like I once was. My addict has held me back and even made me lie (which was not how I was). I’m feeling down today because I have reflected on all those I have hurt around me including myself (pitty-potty, not sure?) On my second day today in sobriety which I am proud of myself for that, thank you doc. for being there for me unconditionally, you are awsome!!!!
July 3rd, 2010 at 7:30 pm
Hey miscreant,
The truth will set you free . The door swings both ways ,have you told your shrink about Doc.H and the subs? All of your care givers need to be involved in your recovery not just the ones you think should. That’s your addict hoping that if he can hide one from the other, that some how he wont be found out and just maybe he’ll get a perscription that will do what he wants it to do which is get him high. But I’m sure you already know that.
Strat
July 3rd, 2010 at 8:59 pm
miscreant;
Big “aerial view” (becoming one of my FAVORITE expressions…), I have a hard time imagining you sitting at the office and “considering” telling me something, aware of the “many chances” you had to tell me, without suspecting your “addict” was in play.
Why ELSE would you consider saying something and not tell me?
You know I would have had an opinion about the Xanax, and I myself have prescribed Seroquel to many patients so I would have been fine with that.
So… there you were sitting, having a “conversation” in your head about what to do… who do you think the two voices were?
A weird move was telling the shrink about me and the Suboxone.
It would seem that you were determined to get your feelings and emotions “medicated” without telling your addiction doctor, and you thought it was not right and THERE you made the pact with your “addict” and it was only a matter of time.
It’s interesting to watch the “addict” tiptoe around, and once you don’t tell on yourself about mistake one, the NEXT time you have TWO THINGS to feel guilty about; 1) the original mistake and 2) not telling on yourself the first time.
I’ve watched this someone spin out over this, adding and adding to the original mistake by not saying something about it a whole bunch of times. She came in 4 or 5 months later after 2 or 3 “lost” or “stolen” prescriptions and three or four very complicated lies, sitting in tears and saying “please don’t kick me out” and sobbing.
What did I say when she came clean?
“That makes sense.”
I asked her if she had used dope, she looked at me indignantly and said “NO!”, so I said;
“Then everything is fine, lets move on.”
So miscreant…. I’ll always help you, and I will never be surprised if, wonder of wonders, you behave like an “addict”.
Dr H
July 4th, 2010 at 11:44 am
Miscreant: Day two good 4 u. It doesn’t sound like a “pitty pot” as much as it does a step 4,which is right on target. When I was on day two I was still in shock from the whole ordeal(long story) so I did a lot of sleeping and sitting in groups-this was in inpatient treatment. If you feel up to it, this is a good time to journal. It may come in handy later when it comes time to make amends- aren’t subs a godsend? If you were taking opiates like I was- just NOT being in withdrawl was a treat. Keep the faith life awaits we are here for you.
MK
July 4th, 2010 at 12:50 pm
On a real computer finally. Miscreant- Day 2!!!! This truly is a day to celebrate. Try to put those negative feelings away, although natural. You will deal with them soon enough. Just follow your steps at AA. Today, enjoy being sober. About telling your other drs. It is a hard thing to do indeed. Took me awhile also. But now all my dr.s know, and even when I have to have ortho surgery, that dr. knows as well. If they aren’t on board with Dr.H being my dr that controls/treats me for my addiction and/or pain, then there are plenty of drs. who are happy to comply and take his number down in case there’s a problem with controlling or helping my chronic pain. Dr.H has been a God send. Truly mean that. I prayed for the right person to help me become sober, and He answered. You will become comfortable in telling your Dr.s about Dr.H. My family Dr. laughs at my chart now. No refils for norco, not going in for every ache and pain. Last time I was treated for bronchitis, he put a cough med. script in my hand, and my addict eyes scanned and saw right away that it had NARCOTICS in it. I think I felt my addict jumping up and down. I handed it back and said I needed something without narcotics, and it was a good feeling learning to control the addict in myself instead of the other way around. OK, won’t go on and on. Again, congrats on your 2nd day. Happy 4th to everyone…..
July 4th, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Strat- loved your post. Still think you should write a book
Dr.H- Like when you post. Gives me good things to study and ideas to get better at. Mk had said something about it being so great to get young people sober to enjoy their lives. I agree. Is there an increase in younger adults lately? Hope so.
July 4th, 2010 at 4:22 pm
P.S. the latest statistics show that the increase in people seeking help for addictions are the baby boomer generation, middle age and up, all those like myself who woke up and realized it wasn’t the sixties and guess what it wasn’t cool any more, bummer huh dude.
Strat
July 4th, 2010 at 7:15 pm
Hey ya’ll, its Ratdog here, and hell I’ve been keeping a running journal for the last 25 years on all the old forgotten stuff that keeps ooozing (not Ouzo ha ha ha) out of my brain, even today I had a zinger of a flashback that I never dealt with. I just wrote it down with the others and when I get about a dirty dozen I sit down with my sponser and Fourth Step it. He still tells me that you still have to work the steps in their proper order, but for a guy like me and my past a continuous Forth is in order ha ha ha. No seriously folks I am not anywhere near the piece of shit I was back in the day, thanks to that cult that worships AA, and a forgining Higher Power. h can’t forget my Irish wifw with the red hair and green eyes ha ha.
What I am saying is that I am still learning the tools that keep me alive even today . The first thing I learned was SCREW GUILT. It’s just an “ism” in my head to get me fucked up again. This might not impress you folks, but this Oct I’ll have 2 years with out any slips, sexy ones at that Doc ha ha, but that impresses the hell out of me because I am a falling down drunk and a pill popping junky, and should be screwed up somewhere not enjoying a serene head, healthy body. The living on the ocean does’nt hurt either ha ha.
Getting ready for the big show of fireworks at Shamel Park. Alot of family are here and its cool hanging out with the younger ones. My Grand Daughter tomorrow is going to make me a wb page an get the Dog on my space Bye
July 6th, 2010 at 3:33 am
Okay. Can’t sleep, and I’ve been cruising the blog. Dr. H, KSBY- Cool advertisment. Yellow shirt. Would catch my addict eye to come to a compastionate place to get help, if I had not already arrived. But your website seemed to speak to me 2.5 years ago. Pain Management dr here has advertisment on local radio, but met him, didn’t do it for me. When I started withdrawls and called cuz I was floating like I’d never done before, he told me to take a drink of booze to ease the discomfort. EXCUSE ME? So, I got more pain meds and said cancel my next appointment.
Been thinking of Rockinstuff. Rockin, do you peek in? How are you doing? Anyone know how she is? Just a wondering.
ShellyDawn? Scared mom? Hope you all are finding answers to questions you had. And thinking of Miscreant. Also thinking good thoughts for u.
July 6th, 2010 at 4:06 pm
Wow cool! I always wanted to belong to something and if people describe AA as a cult it makes me want to remain teachable because these folks must be ignorant or justifying their own behavior. AA rules in my opinion because I would be dead or on my way to alcoholic death filled with shame, fear and anger. I guess i am a little riled up today! Hi to all and welcome miscreant. I will pass on some early recorvery tips that have kept me sober a small 38 days. For me- lots of meetings, same sex meetings and book study ones, new relationships wont fill the void or fix anything but will take you out, the people that want to date me right now are either as sick as i am or… sorry, child molestors because in early sobriety you are not capable of much, forgive yourself God already has, get a sponsor, work the steps and they are in order for reason. Today draw a circle around yourself and say to yourself if it wont fit in the circle it is not important right now, i imagine am in an impatient program to the best of my ability. God his arms wrapped around us, we are all his children. QUIET MIND, PEACEFUL heart to all.
July 6th, 2010 at 4:08 pm
I’m trying to get ShellyDawn and miscreant hooked up here, you guys have similar struggles at this moment.
THANK YOU miscreant for making the “no hit the ball back” comment, we first talked about that 2 years ago and I’m glad you still remembered!
If you want to find rockinstuff, try the Aerosmith concert!
Dr H
July 7th, 2010 at 1:51 am
Aww. is rockinstuff doing okay?
July 7th, 2010 at 9:14 am
Hi Princess, wanted to say bummer on the trouble sleeping, i was having the same problem for weeks, it was terrible! I dont know how often it happens to you but i was erratic and extremely emotional. it is much better now thanks to Dr. H and tips from and talking to recovery people. Take care of yourself.